Those were the times of landline phones and weekly talks with parents were limited, stilted and to the point.
That my maika happens to be in Benares/Kashi/Varanasi is a blessing beyond belief. My heart has always belonged to Benares, my hometown, the place where I have lived for the major part of my growing years. My home, my colony, my school, my college, my friends, nearby localities, the restaurants, the shops - all bear testimony to the time spent there, well-lived and cherished.
From the world-famous Benarsi saree, delectable sweets and chaat, the drool-worthy 'Benarsi paan' to the renowned temples, the mighty river Ganga and its many ghats, the quartet of universities and home to the famous Benares Hindu University (BHU), Benares is a tourist's delight.
People regard Benares, Varanasi or Kashi (probably the only city to have 3 names) as the seat of Hindu culture and tradition. The cross-cultural juxtaposition is immense in this city of Lord Shiva. The Benarsis are renowned for their carefree and happy-go-lucky nature. The westerners who throng the city in multitudes are enamoured by the quaint charm of the city. The city is one of a kind and thrives on a 'masti' and vibe unique to it. No wonder, the 'thandai' that you get in Benares is like no other, bhaang or no bhaang.
The residents are often blissfully unaware of their city's pull. I could never understand the fuss around my town while growing up. To me it was home and one doesn't question or analyse one's home. Not too much at least and never when you are young. It's the world-weary folks who march on a fault-finding mission. People from all over the world are drawn to Benares to experience life away from modern trappings.
Benares has Gullys (lanes) that were built ages ago; it is the oldest continuously inhabited city in the world. These were not built for 2-way automobile traffic. Hence, don't be surprised if you are blocked by a braying cow or a barking dog, supremely squatted in the middle of the road.
There are some of the finest artisans carving wood furniture and toys in this holy city. The Benarsi saree is complemented by the Benarsi Tanchoi, all made on the finest silk you can find. The street food of Beneras is quite extraordinary. You can eat to your heart's content for a pittance, - samosa, kachori, mithai, rasgulla, rasmalai from Ksheer Sagar and others, all evoke pangs of longing and exhibit the pull of Benares.
Kashi Vishwanath Gali - what can one say about it? Several narrow, winding lanes that lead to the famed Kashi Vishwanath temple are lined with shops selling everything from religious offerings to clothes to housewares. You can find the finest glass bangles here and exquisitely carved brass and copper items. I remember my mother buying us bright and beautiful wooden utensils sets and bangles etc from this gali which is a shopper's delight. The supari that is sold here is par excellence; the churan ki goli is apparently shipped worldwide.
For me personally, the city is a repository of my childhood memories which are locked inside my heart and ingrained in my psyche. Those chiseled childhood memories of family bonding, festival gaiety, elaborate ceremonies, fun with friends and neighbourhood shenanigans! Those precious years of enjoying the simplicity of life, sibling affection, parental love and cocoon, of optimism and reverie, of loving life and dreaming big!
There is so much that I picked up subconsciously in Benares that keeps popping up, surprising me above all. The little rituals, the signs, the different ways of Benarasis - all ingrained and instilled without any tutelage - that screams that I am a 'chhori Benares wali.'
The tragedy of losing my parents and brother within a span of 8 years has made my Benares home a shrine, a place where my loved ones once lived, for me and my two sisters. Those memories remain etched forever, radiating warmth and glowing in the vacant corners of my mind and heart. Gurudham Colony has become even more precious if it's at all possible.
Any given time of the day I walk down the memory lane, and recall the love, the laughter, the arguments, the bantering, the quirkiness, the uniqueness and the large-heartedness of my parents. I remember the umpteen number of visits to partake in the Ganga aarti, the spectacular visual and sound of mass spiritual-high reaching a crescendo that leaves one spellbound!
I recall the halcyon days of school life at the city's prestigious school St.johns school and the college life at the esteemed BHU. The academic high and the ensuing accolades at BHU instilled a new found vigour to tackle life and its umpteen challenges.
Accompanying my mother to Kashi Vishwanath temple every Monday was a ritual for years till the time her arthritis incapacitated her. Visiting Sankatamochan, Tulsi Manas Mandir every other day or giving a tour of Sarnath to relatives was routinely done. In retrospect, I realise that Benarsis regard visiting temples a customary practise. We are programmed to pay obeisance to our Gods at every given opportunity and consider ourselves to be the chosen ones. Kashi, as the folklore goes, is blessed to be standing on Lord Shiva's Trishul and no evil eye can damage the city.
Life in Benaras was enriching, fulfilling, with the diverse impact of being exposed to the Hindu religion, the family priest, puja, temples, fasts, etc at home and getting a secular, western convent education at school. Neither was rammed down our throat. The diverse influences didn't hamper personality enhancement which happened seamlessly and organically as the values inherent in both exposures were in tandem with each other. There was no contradiction in thoughts and propagation.
The essence and ethos of a vibrant and pulsating city like Benares, with all its glory and glitches, has shaped me as a person I think my parents would be proud of. Nostalgia and wistful reminiscesengulf me when I think of Benares and my home. I can almost smell the Singhar or the Madhumalti flowers that adorned the canopy at the entrance of my home. It is, after all, a place where my heart is!
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